Day 9 - The Pursuit of Happiness

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Nowadays, happiness seems abstract. It’s a very subjective emotion, but it is not a concept. It’s real. It’s a familiar feeling that we’ve been experienced since we were just a baby. Researchers said when a mother is pregnant, the baby is exposed to the mother’s experience. When the mother is happy, they help the baby to develop better. It concludes; happiness is important.

But what is life if it’s not about balance? Besides happiness, there is an emotion that stands for the absence of happiness, which is sadness. I’d rather think about it that way. I think that concept helps me to recover from my sadness since it’s the condition where I don’t feel happy at all. But the truth is, it’s not that simple. One can be happy and sad at the same time.

I’d like to see happiness as my authority. I could choose whether I want to feel it or not. Still, there are a lot of variables that control my mood. I learned that whenever I feel sad, I need to seek comfort first. Eventually, the light will grow within your heart and bring you joy. That’s a good start. Then, it’s time to learn how to make the light bigger.

Growing up is also a variable of how someone would perceive happiness, and it’s very tricky. One thing that doesn’t feel right might trap us into being stuck in our sadness. One thing to remember, being sad is not a sin. It’s natural. So be it. Take your time. Then get up. As I said before, it’s our authority to choose happiness, so seek it. If you want to be drowned in your sadness, that’s your choice. But if you’ve tried to seek happiness but still feel like it can’t be helped, then you need to reach out. Nobody knows how you feel unless you tell them. You need to make a sound to be helped.

Happiness is also tricky. It’s not always a positive thing, because the world is not as simple as black and white. Some can be happy sitting with their friends, but others might want to sit with their soulmates. Some might feel happy by being greedy, but of course, it’s not the right thing to do. So before you seek happiness, I think the most important is to choose kindness. You reap is what you sow. You’ll get it back one day, the happiness that you think have lost. I’m sure.

I understand that life is difficult. So if you feel trapped in your sadness, and you can’t find the lights, then please seek help. Seek comfort. Reach out. If you don’t want to save yourself, at least give others a chance to help you. The world is a better place if we help another. It is always better to be happy together than to be happy alone. So choose kindness. For our future children, for people who love you, and of course, for yourself.

Bintaro, 12 October 2020

With love, D.